A few within my rather modest and strange circle of friends have exclaimed a preference for Polygamy, saying things such as “monogamy is unnatural and/or stupid” or “it would be better to just let people do what they want,” etc.
The second argument is somewhat perplexing, considering that giving people the freedom to “do pretty much whatever they want” as far as relationships go has already been achieved. That was the whole crux of sexual liberation and Feminism and civil rights movements in the 1960’s, giving us such wonderful things as hypergamy. How has that been working out so far, by the way?
The idea that some of my friends (and surely many others) have of making polygamy some sort of governmental or officially recognized institution would just be redundant. Everyone is already a whore, either willing and/or able to sleep with as many suitable mates as possible and at any time.
There’s also the fact that everyone already participates in varying levels of soft polygamy. This is where the line separating these terms begins to get a little fuzzy though. At what point does it just become polyamory? At what point is it just promiscuity?
Then there is the anger or resentment towards monogamy. Most people have a simple view of monogamy; they think of your stereotypical 1950’s marriage or nuclear family setting, or something along those lines. Of course, as many of us know, that entire institution has been gutted. Marriage is dead, it is meaningless, etc. etc.
As the video above explains, however, monogamy is actually somewhat nuanced and comes in several different flavors; social monogamy, sexual monogamy, etc.
Going beyond that, the idea of monogamy being “unnatural” is a silly argument. Practically all technology is unnatural. Your exceptionally high standard of living is unnatural. The computer or phone you are reading this on is unnatural. What is your point?
The truth is that most people (mostly guys) have the false idea that if polygamy were a “thing,” then they could have open harems and live like sexual kings. This is the “male rationalization hamster” at work.
A woman can understandably be in favor of polygamy because most of them would have no problem sharing an “alpha” with several other women. All that a woman has to do is look halfway decent and spread her legs and her options open up (pun intended).
Most men do not have that luxury, however. Most of the very same men that express being in favor of polygamy are they themselves just regular men that often falsely believe themselves to be “a cut above the rest” just because they have 2+ women/booty calls on their phone’s contacts list. Establishing some kind of big “official” polygamy would only turn the sexual marketplace into an even more zero-sum game, with most men (perhaps including many of you) as the “losers.”
This along with the fact that it would give the very small percentage of men with real harem capabilities the ability to flaunt their success and you have a recipe for revolt. Or at least a lot of violence. As interesting as the ancient tribes are to study, I would prefer to not emulate them. I like having well-maintained roads and the ability to go for long, peaceful motorcycle rides.
If feminism was an outlet for women to collectively rid themselves of any sexual responsibility no matter the cost or detriment to society at large, perhaps polygamy (or what most men believe polygamy to be) is the male equivalent.
Perhaps we should do it, just so the entire charade can come crashing down even faster. Let’s just get this societal collapse thing over with so we can move on.